MY MISSION

To provide a safe, sane and consensual context for BDSM sessions, respecting limits, yet exploring all that is possible. 

AS A PRO DOMME...HERE ARE MY GUIDELINES

Although sexual in nature, domination is NOT prostitution. 

I work with novices to experienced bottoms, slaves, and submissives. I am open to teaching novices and/or couples how to play safe, sane and consensually in the privacy of their own domain. 

A session will always be negotiated prior to the session taking place, and limits will be discussed as well as respected. 

Safe words are respected and listened to immediately. 

Your anonymity will be protected and confidentiality respected.

There is no surveillance equipment or cameras in the dungeon unless a camera is negotiated as part of the session.

Unless prior arrangements or consent have been made, I am the only person who will be present during the session.

I take nothing for granted and I ask a lot of questions. I will ask about any medical problems. This includes previous surgery, current medications, back or joint injuries, breathing and circulatory problems or the use of contact lenses.

Cleanliness is next to Godliness...All of my equipment and implements are cleaned prior to it's use on another person and My dungeon is cleaned thoroughly by My slave once a week.

Anything that can be covered with a condom is, such as vibrating plugs and dildos, etc. They are then washed with antibacterial soap followed by a 4 way quaternary ammonium disinfectant (capable of destroying all major pathogens including HIV and hepatitis). Sounds are cleaned with antibacterial soap followed by a 20 minute soak in a 4 way quaternary ammonium disinfectant. ALL of my large pieces equipment are wiped down with a disinfectant solution after use.

Details:
The use of latex gloves are worn for anything invasive. Enema, catheters, enema kits, razors and needles are single use and disposed of properly. Vibrating insertables are covered with condoms and then washed again with a 10% bleach solution as well as an antibacterial after use. Dildos are boiled and cleaned in a 10% bleach solution. Sounds are boiled for 20 minutes and then placed in a paper bag in a 250 degree oven for 30 minutes. Ace bandages and rope are machine washed. Equipment surfaces are also cleaned prior to using usually with a 50/50 alcohol/ water solution.

I do not use any illegal drugs.

I do not take phone calls during sessions.

TO SCHEDULE AN APPOINTMENT

It is acceptable to contact me through e-mail or by telephone. However, a telephone interview is mandatory for scheduling a first time appointment. 

I do not accept phone calls from blocked, private, out of area or pay phone numbers. I respect anonymity and will only return your call when a specific time is mentioned. If by chance I contact someone other than you or a female voice answers, I always confirm the number again interchanging the last four digits so it appears I have called the wrong number. When I leave a message on your voice mail, I never leave My name unless I know it is okay to do so, then the message can be explained as a wrong number.

In contacting me by phone, be prepared to tell me what kind of experience you have had so far, if any, and what type of session would interest you. I am also interested in finding out what your limits are and if marks are a consideration. Self described as a nurturing sadist, My way of being can be anything from gentle to intense and can change by any varying degree of mood. 

Please note: I do not play with paranoia. Being careful or being safety conscious is one thing, but if you appear overly apprehensive about scheduling an appointment, I will ask you to send a deposit on your appointment before one may be scheduled or I may decline seeing you at all.

I schedule appointments based on My availability as well as every day of the week.

CONTACT BY E-MAIL

mssharinanicole@aol.com

I return e-mails usually within 1 to 3 days. Please be aware, I do not download attachments.

All E-mails need to include:

1) The subject line should read: Inquiry <I delete a lot of mail>

2) Session interest, level of experience/training and ANY health concerns or limitations you may have.

3) Dates you will be in town and preferred appointment times.

4) Include your phone number as well as the best time to return your call and please include alternative times. 

5) A first name. 

I will answer letters that are sincere and contain information requested. I will answer additional questions you may have and tribute inquiries by phone only. A phone interview is necessary in scheduling an appointment with me.

CONTACT BY PHONE

952-943-9789 U.S.A.

I return phone calls as My time and schedule will allow. Be assured that I will contact you as soon as I am able.

I rarely answer My phone and believe that if you are serious, you will leave a message. When you leave your message, include your name, phone number with area code, and the best time/alternative times to return your call. Please speak clearly. 

Have a pen and paper ready when you call.

NOVICES AND FIRST TIME APPOINTMENTS:
As a novice or your first time appointment with Me, you MUST schedule your appointment in advance.

No Availability
If the date and/or time is booked, I will take your name and number and contact you if there is a cancellation or the schedule can be moved around. I will try to accommodate schedules as best as possible. Advance contact is the best way to get your desired appointment time and date.

Couples or Transgendered
I have seen MANY couples over the years and have co-created sessions that were planned for special occasions, surprises, experienced to novice players. One or both persons are played with...whatever your fantasy is, I love creating scenarios that explore, and affect intimacy for you as a couple if this is what you desire. I have enjoyed sessions with transgendered people, (m to f or f to m) pre and post op transexuals, 3 men (1 sub, 2 doms) male and female couples, and female groups of dommes, subs, lesbian or bi.

CONFIRMING YOUR APPOINTMENT
Once your appointment is scheduled, you are REQUIRED to confirm your appointment on the day of your appointment. Please leave your confirmation on My voice mail so I will know you will arrive at your scheduled appointment time.

Required Deposits
Any session that is 4 or more hours, ($100 refundable if re-scheduled 24 hours in advance) Extended sessions: 8 hours to overnight 50% deposit. (refundable if re-scheduled 48 hours in advance) Additional dom/dommes: ($100 refundable if re-scheduled 24 hours in advance)

I require a BLANK money order. Send it Priority (2 to 3 days) to my P.O. Box. Keep the MO receipt in the event I have not received it in 3 days so it may be canceled and a new one issued. Also, a Delivery Confirmation insures you can verify date and time of delivery online. Remember to use a return address.

SUBSEQUENT FEES
Any appointment that was scheduled and a NO SHOW and/or NO CONFIRMATION occurred. You will not be allowed to visit My dungeon if you have a bad rapport with me or any one of My dominants. You will be required to send your FULL non-refundable tribute in advance before an appointment may be scheduled.

YOUR APPOINTMENT
Be on time for your appointment. This means not a moment too soon and not a moment late. <SHARP> I realize that there are considerations to being late, and I ask that you be respectful of my time as I will be with yours. This does not mean to be early for your appointment. Preparing for a session is important to me and I prefer not to be rushed or distracted. 

Please arrive freshly groomed, well rested and nourished and do not wear cologne or perfume. My shower is available to you at the beginning of your session as well as at the end. I strongly suggest the genitals be shaved and/or trimmed. Shaving the hair on the pubic bone is not necessary and may be trimmed. 

I appreciate the time taken when you properly present yourself to Me.

DECORUM

Respectful etiquette towards your Mistress is essential. Take nothing for granted.

I deal with D/s <domination/submission> and the S/m <sadomasochism> arts. I am not an escort. 

Although sexual in nature, domination is not prostitution. 

I session in fetish attire always. 

Shoes off before walking into the dungeon space.

In using the toilet, close the lid and seat.

Used towels and wash cloths are left in the bathroom after use.

Turn off your mobile phone or pager. <Unless you would like to answer it while you are in a precarious position...>

Wait for my instructions and our session will begin.

TABOO/ NO INTEREST
Sexual Intercourse
Oral sex
Brown or Roman showers <But, I will discuss them in a scene>
Public kidnap scenes where security is present
Wrestling
Changing of soiled diapers
Breast feeding
Real life blackmail scenarios
I play with clients who are not intoxicated
I do not do phone or cyber domination
Clients must be over the age of 21 with proof of ID

TOPPING FROM THE BOTTOM: Sessions are always negotiated before the session begins, therefore, when a person orchestrates/dictates the scene WHILE I am playing with them it is disrespectful to your Mistress or the one who is topping the scene. <If you are still confused, it's as if you see your Mistress as your own private puppet.> I respect safewords immediately, so if you need to tell me something, use a safe word or ask if you may make a request. Rapport is very important with Me in a scene and I won't session with someone a second time who tops from the bottom...

MY BDSM INTERESTS/ TYPES OF PLAY
Abrasion/ skin sensitization
Anal play <dildo, plugs, fisting>
Bondage <rope, leather restraints, mummification, straight 
jacket, cage, spreader bars>
Biting
Boot worship
Breath Control <mummification, gas masks>
Castration play
CBT <cock and ball torture/ torment. Including weights, kicking, 
stretching, slapping, cock whipping, catheterization, sounds, 
vacuum pumping, bondage>
Chastity training/ orgasm control
Cross Dressing
Dildo Training <worship>
Gun Play
Golden Shower <cocktail, bath mat or receptacle toilet>
Electricity <tens, Violet wand>
Enemas
Equestrian Training
Fantasy
Flogging
Foot Worship <heels, boots, food play, face smothering>
Forced Feminization
Humiliation <verbal/ degradation, insulting, , physical/ hair
pulling, pinching, face slapping, spitting, GS> 
Interrogation Scenes
Leg Worship <with or without stockings>
Medical Exam scene
Mind Fuck/Psychodrama <edge play>
Nipple Torture <clamps, play piercing, weights, pumping>
Percussion Play <single tail whip, razor strap, flogging, caning, 
OTK/ spanking, crop>
Puppy Training
Role Play <Fantasy scenarios>
Sensory Deprivation <loss of perception with sight, sound, and voice> 
Shaving <Legs, genitals, hair trimming>
Slave Training
Sleep Deprivation
Smoking/ ashtray receptacle 
Temperature play <fire wands, flash cotton, cigarettes, hot wax, 
incense, ice, Tiger Balm>
Tickling
Trampling <bare foot, heels, BZ>

THE INNER CIRCLE
If you would like to bring your Mistress something special, I prefer to keep it simple.

I LOVE a special champagne. Mumm Napa Cuvee Napa Brut Prestige, Moet & Chandon White Star, Veuve Clicquot NV Brut (Orangish-Yellow Label), Pommery Pop 187ml (four pack with straws), Piper-Heidsieck (Brut), Roederer Estate, and of course I love Dom Perignon.

Red wines warm me...Merlot, Zinfandel, Cabernet. I enjoy trying new ones. Chardonnay...buttery and golden.

I ADORE and relish Vivienne Westwood Boudoir in perfume or powder. This is the most extravagant and wonderful gift I could ever receive. The powder is impossible to find! It can only be found online: http://www.escentual.com/vivienne_westwood/boudoir/boudoir05.html or try www.Amazon.com ...or you may refer to My Inner Circle Page.